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| Man & Woman |
- When men and women are able to appreciate and accept differences of their differences, this love a chance to grow.
Through the understanding of the difference between "the opposite sex who is hidden, we can more successfully give and receive love in our hearts. By confirming and accepting the difference between "us, the solution" creative can be found, so we managed to get what we want. more importantly, we can learn how to love and support of a loved one in a better way .Love was magical, and may take a long time, if we remember the difference between "us.
- sense of self from a man defined by his ability to achieve results that make this man a success and achievement.
A man appreciate the power, skill, efficiency and achievement. They always do this was to prove themselves and develop the abilities and skills through .Self pride formulated by their ability to achieve the results ". They experience the satisfaction, especially if they are success.
-Giving unsolicited advice to men, meaning assume he does not know what to do, or that he can not do it alone.
This is a way to prove their capabilities so they can feel satisfied with himself.to get this satisfaction, man usually do many things by himself.Other men can not help him achieve those goals, man feels proud to do things on himself.Asking others help when he able to do it by themselves, considered as a weakness. Autonomy is a symbol of efficiency, strength and skill. Men save the trouble for himself, except when he needs others help to find a solution.
- sense of self from a woman defined by her feelings and the quality of relationships.
Women have the different value .They appreciate love, communication and relationships. They spend a lot of time to provide support, help and serve each other. The meaning of themselves is determined by the feelings and the quality of their relationships. They experience the satisfaction of sharing and more relation.Woman more attentive to living together in harmony, community and in lovefullycooperate .Communication is the main requirement. Sharing personal feelings are more important than achieving goals and success. Speaking and relate to one another is a source of great satisfaction. Personal expressions, especially expressions of feeling, very important to them. More women are relationship-oriented, not goal, they are more attentive to the disclosure of goodness, love and attention.
Men Are from Mars and women are from Venus.
Because it comes from the two planets are very far apart, turned out in developing relationships, Mars and Venus had a scoreboard that (much) different.
Scoreboard Venus
He assumes after working all day from 9-5 hours then he will get a score of 10,000 in their relationship.
Apparently not. Women only scoring 1 on it.
Venus scoring 1 for all things, SMALL or BIG. Women need a lot of expressions of love in a relationship to feel loved. One or two expressions of love, no matter how big and important, will not be enough. Doing a lot of little things (and get a lot of scores) is confidential to meet the needs of a woman's love. It's magic when a man does little things for his woman.
You work all day = (only) 1 score, but .....
You look for and find your wife when he returned home = 1 score, too!
You hug = additional 1 score again!
You kissed her cheek = 1 score
You ask "How's your day?" = 1 score
You say "I love you" = 1 score
You get your wife to drink = 1 score
You listen with sincere when she told = 1 score
Every time your wife to change the topic and you are still listening = 1 score per topic
In the book there are more than 100 how to get the value in the eyes of his wife, here are some things I can note:
1. Arriving at home, seek her first and hug her.
2. When she told you the problem, listen and Empathize. DO NOT rush
offer a solution, she just wants to be heard.
3. When he talked to you, put a newspaper or turn off the TV / Computer
and give full attention to her.
4. Be patient when she was sharing. You DO NOT look at your watch.
5. Hold it four times a day.
6. Schedule extra time when traveling so that he does not need to rush.
7. Every now and then offer to help wash the dishes.
8. If you're going to be late, call her and tell her.
9. Praise her for his performance.
10. When going out, ask if anyone wants to buy.
11. Tell her "I love you" at least several times a day.
12. The bed and clean the bedroom.
13. If you're out of town, call to provide telephone numbers where you
can be reached.
14. Offer to massage her back, neck or legs (or all).
15. Be sure to provide an occasional whisper of tenderness.
16. Do not press the remote control to a different channel when she was watching TV with you.
17. Kiss her and say hello if you want to go.
18. Be understanding if she was late or decide to changed her clothes.
19. Make it more important than the kids.
20. Buy her the small gifts.
21. Buy her clothing.
22. Take her picture on special occasions.
23. Take a romantic walk short.
24. Make her knows that you carry a picture in your wallet.
25. Drive vehicle with caution.
26. Surprising her with a love letter / poem / sms .
27. Offer to carry groceries.
28. Praise her cooking.
29. Look at her eyes while listening to the conversation.
30. Laugh at her jokes and humor.
31. Verbally say thank you when she does something to you.
32. Create a special moment when alone with her.
33. Tell her that you miss her when you go away.
34. When holding hands, do not let your hands limp.
35. Help out the garbage.
36. Close the bathroom or toilet's door.
There are many other things that can be given a partner to partner, to the need creativity and a deep understanding of the character and preferences of each spouse and make sure her love will only be directed at you.
(Source: Men Are from Mars Women Are from Venus. Author: John Gray, Ph.D)
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